The Butterfly Effect – Navigating the hurricane a flutter caused

A Butterfly flaps its wings … As I attempt to come to terms with the issues I discussed in my previous post (If you haven’t read that post, I urge you to do that first to understand the issues surrounding this post), I start to realize how such a small thing (small in the sense the actual events were only hours long if you add them all together) can cause so many issues down the line. Every part of my life has been negatively effected by this. The issues that caused everything from my dropping out of high school to my early discharge

Silence, Shame and breaking the cycle

Through the abuse I described in a previous post, I felt trapped by shame and guilt, and because of that I kept silent. The only way that cycle can be broken is to change the attitudes that cause the shame and the guilt. We need to break the cycle by removing the power from the abusers and giving it to the victims. Research conducted by the CDC says that 1 in every 6 boys  and 1 in every 4 girls are sexually abused before they turn 18 [report]. Estimates are that 85-90% of all abuse happens at the hands of

The Statute of Limitations – the ultimate Olly olly oxen free

The Statute of Limitations has changed over the years, and it appears that there have been attempts made to make it better, but it has not been enough. Currently there is a complicated equation that someone must use to determine if a child molester can be prosecuted after time has passed. That equation gets more complicated because in most cases crimes committed before the change in the statute are grandfathered into the previous statute definitions. For example, in Connecticut the statute of limitations states that a child sex offender can be prosecuted until it is 30 years after the 18th

The Limitation of Statutes – How a child molester gets away with it

Begin at the beginning I often read articles like the one I am about to write, and it seems they all start the same way. “I have been meaning to write this for a while” or “I am not sure how to start”. I used to laugh at that, because I didn’t realize how difficult it is to get the words rolling. Now I understand, because I have been meaning to write this for a while, and now that I am writing it, I don’t know where to start. It all started decades ago, my parents split up and I